The thing is, the only way to carve out some time for ourselves and our health is by accepting we can't do it all. Really we can't.
how it happened for me
The answer was, of course, no.
I realised how loved I was, how amazing the people around me were, how good it felt to honour peace and movement and health. I felt that instead of time whizzing by me like an out of control train, that I was actually slowing my perception of time by being more aware.I learnt a lot. I fell in love with my tiny garden and watched with joy as the new buds became bigger and slowly, slowly opened into flowers. I connected with things around me in a way I hadn't before and it felt so good.
Despite everything, I felt good.
It's such a shame that sometimes we have to be ill or have a family trauma before we actually re-evaluate or slow down. Maybe we plan that we are going to do it, or intend that we will do it, but there is always something pressing.
These darker days are Nature's invitation to go within, to slow down. We tend to ignore that invitation, our life is just as packed now as at any other time of year. And everyone else around us is so busy too - we can't expect them to do more. So how does it ever change?
ways we can change
- Go through your diary and make an appointment with yourself to restore and relax. It can be an hour, an evening or half a day but make it a regular slot at least every other week. Book them in until the end of the year. And this doesn't mean adding another yoga class or swim or treatment to your diary. It means finding some quiet space at home, on a walk, something simple.
- Take some time to be with someone who isn't as busy as you are! There is a certain joy in spending time with someone who has no rush, no schedule. I have some precious people in my life, some of whom are older than me or live in a quieter place, who remind me how truly crazy modern city life really is. I am so grateful for their perspective as it gets me questioning my own.
- Let someone else take control. If you are always the person that gets people together, suggests ideas for days out, takes the initiative in meetings, talks the most - just give it a rest for a while. Preserve your energy and once in a while, allow others to take the lead. You may find that you learn something or enjoy an experience in a different way when you are not in the driving seat.
- Be soothed and nurtured. Sometimes we just need to be looked after. If the people around us have enough on their plate as it is, seek your support with a delicious massage or treatment that leaves you feeling truly held. Some of my clients tell me that Amatsu makes them feel that way.