But I'd like to share something with you that I've since figured out. The vast majority of those people have been in a place quite similar to the one you find yourself in. Amazing healthcare practitioners have often suffered illness or pain, yoga teachers have often rehabilitated themselves after an accident, inspirational coaches have often had life traumas. It was through doing their own work -whether that was self enquiry, exercise, changing their lifestyle, extricating themselves from a toxic job or relationship or a combination of all of those - that they have learnt the stuff we are desperate to glean from them. And they are still learning. And of course, still making mistakes. It is, like so many of the things I talk about, a process. The learning is everything. We want short cuts but we don't realise that by trying to find them we are missing the point completely. If we ever want to be peaceful, joyful, capable and calm like those we admire, we have to do our own work and, even with the best of intentions, no-one can do it for us.
That can feel scary, I know, but we all have inner reserves that we don't know exist until we try to utilise them. We all have capacities and capabilities that are as yet undiscovered. And by doing our own work, we gradually transform ourselves - the greatest satisfaction of all.
So don't lose heart. Find authentic people who inspire you and learn from them, read books, watch talks, do whatever it is that makes you feel uplifted and energised, take tiny steps towards what you want your life to look like. And day by day learning about yourself, make small tweaks and changes to take you towards that place. It really is a journey.